But the suffocating constant thoughts of losing it + my parents’ vast pressure were cornering me like a wounded animal. Yes, no need in sitting at home and hiding. However, that doesn't mean that you can't gradually improve your speaking skills so that you come across as professional and poised. I have a very similar background to you. I’m ashamed of myself. Having to meet new people can sound alarms and ignite warning fires in the minds and bodies of those living with social anxiety (Extroverts Can Experience Social Anxiety, Too). I only lasted a month. They were interested in building their massive castles and fun creations while I just built my dirt hut necessary for survival and went cave-diving (back when you could explore underground for hours). During that space of time you could go back to school and study something else that will direct you onto a different path? Everyone wants to think the worst of you (me) all of the time and not listen to my true feelings. Due to the pandemic I just keep crying and contemplating bad things. She didn’t understand how much I feared it and how sick it made me. I cannot bare the thought of yet another job with all its drama’s and then being a happy, positive role model to my child who only deserves the very best version of me. I don’t get any physical reactions to the idea of work, like heart rate or trouble breathing or anything. I was to sign the contract when i felt this sudden fear that i might not be able to perform well in the job that is being offered. My family was disappointed, but I didn’t care. I know that. I kept crying non-stop and my parents hate me doing that even when all kids stop crying and have adapted the school life. I am so freaking out every time I think of going to work but I really do wanted to work but I can’t. The book industry is too hard, you won’t make it. I tried my hardest to prove these thoughts wrong in college. i did not continue with the offer. Now depressed and suffering with side effects of medication, his great dream job in jeopardy. I’m just so anxious and no one understands how bad it is and no one I know actually understands how much I overthink things in my head. But I had these feelings with every single job. Arachibutyrophobia (Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of your mouth) Arachibutyrophobia is … I’m so depressed and it’s difficult working as a freelancer too because I can’t concentrate and focus. Please keep on supporting your husband. The fear, the anxiety, the constant desire to just ball up and cry.. it’s unbearable. And telling people, as a grown person, that you are scared and get physically sick from being scared and not knowing what comes next is like trying to tell them you cannot live life because a mouse might appear at any moment. My boyfriend works and although we live at our parents houses we are trying to save up for a house. But I am just so terrified all the time. I didn’t know about this “ergophobia” existing until today. I really thought I was the only one. My job requires me to be on call for the days when I’m not scheduled, and my anxiety sky-rockets when every day I’m not scheduled for fear, they might call me to come. I have never really had a job, a few weeks here and there. People keep advising me, but they never understand my real issue…. She helped me and my dad out financially for years. Because I literally am the only person I know that is like this. I like the idea of investing in other people’s ideas and hanging back to collect my check. I am scared to talk to anyone about this. I can’t fix him, I’m only on the sidelines but hope that I can somehow coach him back to his own sanity, which he deserves and so do you my friend. When i read about you all i feel very happy. I am afraid of making mistakes and getting judged by everyone. After 9 months of being unemployed, my family, like every good family would, started pressuring me to start working again, the pressure sucked but my desire to NOT work was too great… But then they told me I would have to go back to Brazil if I didn’t work, it was at this time that I realized that meant leaving my high school girlfriend, who I’ve been dating for three years now, behind. I know this doesn’t help with interviewing and job searching but it should help once you get the job. Wishing you the best (Me too). I used to share my life and how happy I was but people started staying that I was the most negative person and behind my back that I was such a show off, that I lived off my husbands money and I didn’t deserve anything. Tell them up front you need help with anxiety to get and keep a job. Through the struggle I eventually got a 2 day trial. I had a job offer for an overnight shift at McDonald’s and I turned it down. I also finished undergrad last year and currently do not have a full-time job. We would rather remain stuck in this agony and misery than push out to achieve something that’s more than the minuscule tantrums running in our heads. Sent via email this week was ‘When it comes to speaking up in meetings, I just panic, my mind goes blank, I feel stupid and it looks like I don’t know my job!’. I’m upset that I can’t get past what other people think is a very simple block. When going on vacations, all I want to do is go home. Social phobia, which causes extreme anxiety in social or public situations, and Agoraphobia, which is the fear of being alone in public places from which there is no easy escape. I’m a guy from India, suffering from the same issue. I am a visual person and I always worry about how I will look in others eyes. McGraw-Hill; 2003. Today he had to pick me up early and I think, or at least hope and pray, that he saw it’s so much more. It keeps happening to me that I keep finding excuses to not go to work. I always thought that I’m just lazy. It’s not so much getting a job I fear, it’s getting yelled at in messing up and getting fired I’m afraid of. What do I say? I have had issues with work for nearly all my life. The sooner you do this, the better, otherwise your fears will grow and get worse. Once again, I’m dependent on my parents after losing a wonderful job. I’ve been going for a year now and it’s a safe place, they won’t judge you. Days after, jobs were offered but then i refused them all because the fear has been consuming me. My name is Sam and I’m about to be 22 and have only worked a few shifts at different places. I even had a trial day as a video editor for a hair stylist and I forced myself to do it. I just have to say “no, just finishing my degree.” A lot of people I know – family and some friends – are generally understanding but I know there’s probably still judgement. For example, the sufferer might be afraid of performing manual labor due to the fear of getting injured. That’s a terrible thought, don’t think that.. but I DO. Does anyone feel as if it’s so physically draining committing yourself to something you don’t care about for 8 hours a day? We cannot survive in this world with this fear. However, internally, a plethora of reactions are going on in his mind: these include feeling like running away or hiding, feeling like crying, having thoughts of death etc.” I kept trying but would feel like running away. I am just so scared because I know that this is gonna be a huge problem in my life and I don’t think it’ll ever go away. And I think this might be me coming out of the fog, slowly but surely. The individuals suffering from it are afraid to seek employment from fear of being yelled at by superiors, or, in general, due to performance or social anxiety. If you are required to present during meetings, or simply wish to improve your skills at speaking to a group, there is no substitute for regular practice. So i have THAT to compete with too. This thought may help in times when you feel attacked, unappreciated, stressed or an injustice towards you. Does it mean I have work phobia? My grandmother just passed away. I’ve had about 20 jobs in my life so far and I’m only 25. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. After work, all I could think about was work the next day. Oh yeah.. thus the trauma from all the bullying and abuse i’ve suffered from people my entire life, I GET IT, and i don’t like it AT ALL. A phobia is similar to a fear with one key difference: the anxiety that a person experiences is so strong that it interferes with their quality of life and/or ability to function. I’m a concerned wife and love him dearly and I refuse!!! Naturally, the phobia can be deeply debilitating as the phobic is always dependent on others for food and money and might have strained relations with loved ones. My anxiety spiked during meetings because there was too much time to sit and think. The most i’ve lasted in a job was a year before my department shut down. Performance anxiety or fear of failing assigned tasks or the fear of speaking before groups could lead to fear of work phobia. So what do we do to save ourselves from the hurt , stress & fears? My sister recently told them about a bonus she is getting, and I think that triggered my parents on expressing frustration with me. Anxiety At Work Meetings One of the most common times people feel anxious at work (after getting called in to see the boss) is at meetings where you are expected to speak up in front of many others. No longer able to hold a job. Any new challenge scares me, I always feel like I am not good enough, I am always nervous when I talk to my boss and due to nervousness I screw up even the most simple matters. A few years later, I worked at a Cub Scout Camp and actually really enjoyed it. God maybe I will never be cured and I will live with my parents forever. I quit the job after only 2 months… When I left, it was the best feeling in the world, I felt like I was finally free, and I went by without working for 9 months…. I graduated with higher grades and awards as Bachelor of Science in Computer Engineering. I hate my job and I really want to quit but they made me sign a contract that told me to pay a large sum of money if I quit before 2019. 29 year old here. That’s how badly it has been for me in the past. After four years i resigned. Now that I write this all out, maybe it’s not as mild as I thought. Meetings can be big, scary beasts if you let them be. There’s no logic to my anxiety regarding this. I’ve suffered from this for years on end. Unfortunately I didn’t get the job and the other females did. I’m so scared of having to stay 8 hours a day in front of a computer, every single day of the week, typing and typing, with no one to interact to except for a machine, and my back would ache and ache but I would not be able to leave the chair, not able to leave the work, oh no, because I need the money, the money to pay for the pills, I now take 4 of them a day, I don’t think I can take it much longer. Although I attended college I struggled with this. My husband has been supporting me since we were 18. I’ve been trying to overcome this fear by consciously throwing myself out to conditions that stimulate this phobia, and trying to control my reaction. It crushes my soul thinking about it. Nobody ever stays in the same job, it’s A LOT of effort when he just die anyways.” Urgh… NO! Hi Louisa. Alexis, I feel the same exact way. I wouldn’t say I have the same issue/s as you but I am a anxiety sufferer for the past 7-8 years. I am also having the same problem that you have. Visuals are great tools for getting a message across and for drawing attention away from yourself. When I am off, all I do is think about going to work, I can’t relax or sleep. I felt like nothing, like I didn’t belong there at all. I have to provide for my family, and I am irrationally afraid of that. I have been searching and applying for some very part time jobs because again it’s the ‘right’ thing to do but I’m scared. Wow, I feel so much better that there’s actually people in the world that relate to me. I had so much freedom, so much potential building up. The obstacles aren’t considered, and you are at peace knowing that you are doing the right thing (no matter how much it hurts). I am so desperate right now to get something like that. I was so happy that time because finally after years of studying I can now give back to my parents and that it’s my time now to be independent. I have had a few jobs here and there but most were working for a family member. I know I will have to start my own business. I cannot quit because I have no job lined up at the moment. To get a diploma I need traineeship. Life is passing me by and I could have had my bachelors by now. It is draining to always have to act all the time. Wow literally my exact same situation. I remember as a chid of fearing going to school most days. And I think I have this phobia. Sure, one could say I can ask them if they have any tips but they’ll just give me what I already know. Suddenly a change in management and WAM – so long happiness hello dread! So now you know a bit about my story and that you and I have the same struggles in common. I think it helps that we’re both dealing with a similar issue. 1) I don’t make enough money working so little, but I am miserable working even just 3 days. I keep getting these super convincing thoughts to quit my job and start somewhere else. I role-play with him and practice with him and have told him to not give up on this AMAZING job, but it’s not really working. I’ve seen lots of good comments on here. As I was reading this, I almost wanted to cry too. I can’t even call a therapist that my insurance covers because I’m too scared. Whether it’s for service or some entertainment job I can’t seem to be able to handle it. I can’t dream or even imagine working with people from a different country. Gynophobia is a specific phobia because it involves an extreme and irrational fear of something — in this case, women — who are not dangerous … What should I do? My panic and anxiety attacks have shot up the roof (as I am typing this). The saddest thing is that I avoid the work I would love to do, which is my art. Yuck! It is just as important to trust yourself to be able to respond spontaneously to questions and discuss issues that aren't pre-planned. I’m afraid to drive AND do cashiering. They understand I literally suffer from anxiety and that I’m not faking it or being lazy. I am afraid that my life has no sense now since I don’t think I’m going to earn money that I need to live a life. I do apply for numerous jobs and I’m invited for an interview but just before I take up the position, fear strikes. My father couldn’t pay for me to be a doctor. There is good people out there I promise! I’ve had jobs before but I never lasted in them. In extreme cases, the phobia may have an impact on their work environment, commute, recreational and social activities, or home life. So I had to learn to forgive myself, I was made this way, it has not been a choice, therefore how can I be blamed? I always knew something was wrong with my childhood, and I always knew it had to do with the people that raised me but I never knew it went this deep. Tom, I need not say more, I can just copy paste your situation. It’s only 790 a month. For example: a phobia may be associated with a … Very few things go wrong at this job, but I still dread going to work, especially the first day back every week, which is usually a Sunday or Monday night. I need someone to talk to. I’m able to go into the office only about 1-2 days per week and only about 4 hours per day when I’m there. The phobic can also try to start his/her business or look for work from home options. It’s really crazy it feels that bad. In the end I’m now going through interview again and again but the fear has come back again. But then when I was 29 I had a really bad stroke. I’m almost out of money and I’m in a year long lease. Go to a neurologist? 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